Backtrack three years ago when I decided to go through “conscious uncoupling”, I had to tell my two daughters (age 12 & 10).
“Girls, mommy loves you very much but I will not be able to stay married to your daddy. He will always be your daddy.”
They looked sad but they knew it was coming.
I continued, “How can I better support you as we will have to sell our house?”
They stayed silent then said, “Can we stay in the same school, not to lose our friends and get a dog?”
Staying in the same school district and having a dog would ultimately incur more costs- even I had no income then. I promised them.
To me, having a dog would support the healing process- it is to instill a mindset of love, compassion, and giving.
You heal as you focus on things, people, or intention(s) that are beyond yourself. There’s always less fortunate people in this world.
I always help by donating to animal shelters, Feeding American annually, etc.
Teddy, a golden retriever, was a very well behaved puppy with his humble and honest personality. He’s filled with pure love and joy.
We slowly healed in the process of raising Teddy.
Instead of wallowing in a victim mindset or in our own pain, we can always think beyond ourselves.
Do you have a pet?
～ Love you more ❤️
Kolline